Ye be warned, this is a wedding-related rant post that I just need to get off my darn chest.
One of my favorite cousins will not be attending my wedding next month. I cannot hide how hurt I am. She is basically like another sister to me growing up. Though, we definitely don’t see each other very often these days. Apparently it’s more important to attend her friends 2nd or 3rd marriage, that she was JUST ASKED to be in a few weeks back. As an aside, I asked people to be in my wedding before I even had a venue picked. Also, I sent my invites out in June, so she definitely knew about my wedding. She kinda screwed over my Maid of Honor with my Bachelorette plans (which she knew about 4-5 months in advance), by backing out 2 weeks before the party. She never even contacted me after to explain why she couldn’t go. So instead of tossing her check in the trash that she sent as a gift, I’m going to cash it and give the money to my MOH to try to recoup the cost she ate for her not going to the Bachelorette party.
I’m truly very hurt she would choose to only attend her friends umpteenth wedding, instead of going to both. I practically begged her to try to catch the tail end of my wedding, despite the fact it would take her 2 1/2 hours to get to me. I would also like to clarify, I’m not a diva by any means. But it’s a big day for me, and I never imagined she wouldn’t be there for it.
I also get the impression she hasn’t even checked with her friend if it’s okay for her to leave after dinner or something during the reception. I would assume, if she truly wanted to go to my wedding, she would have told her friend that she needed to go to both and plan accordingly. Judging by our conversations, I don’t think she even told her friend the scheduling conflict.
I am just truly hurt by this whole situation. I hope she comes to her senses and figures out a way to catch the back end of my reception. If not, I just don’t think I can speak to her ever again. I hate that sometimes it takes a wedding to weed out people that clearly mean a lot more to you, than you to do them. It’s a sucky situation, no use in dwelling on it.
Edited to add, I would 100% understand if the arrangements to be in this friends wedding, had happened months and months ago. I would definitely not be as hurt about it had the timing been much different. Also, forgot to mention, I was IN her freaking wedding years ago.