I guess it takes planning a wedding to figure out how nuts some people can be. While brides and grooms can go crazy under all the stress, family can also be a cause of drama. Not sure if I actually posted about this before. But I’m already typing. So, let’s go back to a little over a year ago when Andy and I were sending out wedding invitations for our September wedding. We sent the invites out in early June, giving people about 2 ½ months to respond in August. This detail is key. He has two first cousins that are sisters. We invited both, one of them is married and the other (we thought) was single. Since we wanted to keep the wedding small(ish) we didn’t offer a lot of +1’s out until we had a better idea of how many relatives from Italy were coming from my side. We gave a +1 to the cousin that is married for her husband, and didn’t give one to the (presumed) single sister. Now, had the cousin that didn’t get a +1 contact us, we could have added on. Let’s also preface this by saying, I’m not very “bridal” so I didn’t really brush up on wedding invite etiquette either. But, Andy and I aren’t formal people anyway. So we trust that if there were issues, people would tell us directly.
Anyway, so a couple weeks go by and we get two RSVP cards back from each sister. They both declined, and didn’t offer any kind of explanation to us as to why they couldn’t go. Let’s keep in mind, they basically sent the RSVP cards back practically right away. So we find out from Andy’s mom, the married cousin can’t go because she couldn’t find a babysitter. Ummm, what?! You have like 3 ½ months to find one!! So that’s clearly a bullshit excuse right there. I don’t think the other sister really even came up with an excuse. But the theory is, they are upset she didn’t get a plus one. Which AGAIN, had someone contacted us directly, we could have rectified the situation.
Andy was upset about their immature behavior, and basically cut off contact with them. People fail to understand it’s someone else’s wedding, not their own. So the bride and groom can do whatever they want with their wedding. Since Andy cut off contact with them, it just leaves me, as their Facebook friend. I didn’t hear anything from them until recently.
It turns out, the other sister has a boyfriend. They got engaged recently, and have been planning their wedding. Well, she sent ME a message on FB telling me they set their wedding date. They selected THE SAME DAY Andy and I got married. I shit you not. She also was explaining the reasoning behind selecting the date. To be honest, I don’t really care that they picked the same wedding date as us, or the reasoning. Just find it funny, that they decide to tell us why they picked the same wedding date as us, but couldn’t offer to tell us why they couldn’t go to our wedding.
Andy wasn’t ever planning on going to their wedding to begin with after their behavior. So no sweat off my back. But the mere fact they have the audacity to think we would even GO to their wedding is asinine. Oh ok, sure, I’m going to go to your wedding when you both were such divas about mine? Sorry guys, I can’t find a dog sitter this late in the game.
So I declined their RSVP and mailed it back within days of getting it. I am not offering up any kind of explanation to them either. Andy didn’t want to respond at all, but I don’t have any intention of adding more fuel to the fire. I also declined the wedding shower. I didn’t actually know when it was, because Andy tossed the invite before I could take note. But I did have the courtesy of letting them know I couldn’t make it. I am being polite to their invitations and messages, since I’m not interested in adding more drama. I don’t think they know about this blog either, otherwise I wouldn’t post my rant. But hey, I wish them well. Just don’t expect Andy and I to be part of their lives.