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SORRY, I CAN’T FIND A DOG SITTER 6 MONTHS IN ADVANCE

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I guess it takes planning a wedding to figure out how nuts some people can be. While brides and grooms can go crazy under all the stress, family can also be a cause of drama. Not sure if I actually posted about this before. But I’m already typing. So, let’s go back to a little over a year ago when Andy and I were sending out wedding invitations for our September wedding. We sent the invites out in early June, giving people about 2 ½ months to respond in August. This detail is key. He has two first cousins that are sisters. We invited both, one of them is married and the other (we thought) was single. Since we wanted to keep the wedding small(ish) we didn’t offer a lot of +1’s out until we had a better idea of how many relatives from Italy were coming from my side. We gave a +1 to the cousin that is married for her husband, and didn’t give one to the (presumed) single sister. Now, had the cousin that didn’t get a +1 contact us, we could have added on. Let’s also preface this by saying, I’m not very “bridal” so I didn’t really brush up on wedding invite etiquette either. But, Andy and I aren’t formal people anyway. So we trust that if there were issues, people would tell us directly.

 Anyway, so a couple weeks go by and we get two RSVP cards back from each sister. They both declined, and didn’t offer any kind of explanation to us as to why they couldn’t go. Let’s keep in mind, they basically sent the RSVP cards back practically right away. So we find out from Andy’s mom, the married cousin can’t go because she couldn’t find a babysitter. Ummm, what?! You have like 3 ½ months to find one!! So that’s clearly a bullshit excuse right there. I don’t think the other sister really even came up with an excuse. But the theory is, they are upset she didn’t get a plus one. Which AGAIN, had someone contacted us directly, we could have rectified the situation.

Andy was upset about their immature behavior, and basically cut off contact with them. People fail to understand it’s someone else’s wedding, not their own. So the bride and groom can do whatever they want with their wedding. Since Andy cut off contact with them, it just leaves me, as their Facebook friend. I didn’t hear anything from them until recently. 

 It turns out, the other sister has a boyfriend. They got engaged recently, and have been planning their wedding. Well, she sent ME a message on FB telling me they set their wedding date. They selected THE SAME DAY Andy and I got married. I shit you not. She also was explaining the reasoning behind selecting the date. To be honest, I don’t really care that they picked the same wedding date as us, or the reasoning. Just find it funny, that they decide to tell us why they picked the same wedding date as us, but couldn’t offer to tell us why they couldn’t go to our wedding.

Andy wasn’t ever planning on going to their wedding to begin with after their behavior. So no sweat off my back. But the mere fact they have the audacity to think we would even GO to their wedding is asinine. Oh ok, sure, I’m going to go to your wedding when you both were such divas about mine? Sorry guys, I can’t find a dog sitter this late in the game.

So I declined their RSVP and mailed it back within days of getting it. I am not offering up any kind of explanation to them either.  Andy didn’t want to respond at all, but I don’t have any intention of adding more fuel to the fire. I also declined the wedding shower. I didn’t actually know when it was, because Andy tossed the invite before I could take note. But I did have the courtesy of letting them know I couldn’t make it. I am being polite to their invitations and messages, since I’m not interested in adding more drama. I don’t think they know about this blog either, otherwise I wouldn’t post my rant. But hey, I wish them well. Just don’t expect Andy and I to be part of their lives.  
 

 

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IN HONOR OF THE SUPERB OWL

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Sharing one of my favorite wedding memories. It doesn’t even involve me or my husband. Instead, it involves the best man and good ol’ TB12! We didn’t realize when we booked our wedding venue, some of the Pats players stay at the hotel the night before the game. Some of the players just turn up for meetings.  The best man had to run up to his room during dinner, and on his way back to the reception had a chance encounter with TOM. Holy cow! We also met some of the coaching staff and another staff member asked the DJ to turn down the music. He politely declined. No harm no foul, because they won the game the next day anyway.

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PROFESSIONAL PHOTOS FROM OUR WEDDING

I got my professional pictures back from the wedding photographer last week. I got 2200+ photos back. I tried to make a smaller album on Google, but it is still a lot of pictures.  I was sick of looking at the pictures last week, since I spent too much time trying to edit down. Even on Facebook the album is large, despite getting it down to 350. We’ll call that a small achievement, haha.


I love how the pictures came out. I tried to just edit down the collages for this post. It’s still probably a lot, but I’m tired of editing down pictures, I need to get on booking my honeymoon!


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OUR WEDDING WAS OUT OF THIS WORLD!

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Sneak peek of the professional photos. I can’t wait to see them all!

I got married eight days ago, and am finally getting around to writing about it. I didn’t really have time to take many pictures on my own phone, so I saved a bunch from wedding guests on Facebook. I made them into some collages. In case you couldn’t tell, it was a Star Wars theme. We had a lot of fun with it. 

I experimented with a video collage, no idea how it’s going to translate into this blog post. I didn’t select music, so I also don’t know what the sound will be, so be warned! Anyway, I was a bit anxious the last week before the wedding. I didn’t sleep much the night before. But that was to be expected. Everything went really well! Our ceremony was short and sweet, and my brother was the officiant. He dressed as Obi Wan Kenobi. I did an R2D2 inspired hair style, I even dyed my purple hair streak to blue.

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I felt like a pinball for most of the reception, just jumping around from thing to thing. I tried to enjoy as much as possible, I danced, ate, drank, used the photo booth, and had a great time. But man, the day did fly by! I did have to escape periodically for pictures, but that was to be expected. Andy hates pictures, so that wasn’t fun for him. 

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I am a little sad it’s over, but also relieved. I spent so much time planning, that it is nice to have spare time and income! I can’t wait for the professional photos, I’ll be sure to post my favorites later on. We aren’t going on a honeymoon until early next year. So we went to the Cape for a few days after the wedding. We were really fortunate to have awesome weather for the wedding and Cape. It’s was very warm for late September. But I can’t wait for the fall weather to kick in, I love boot season.

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I just realized I collaged the same photo twice. Oh well!

 

 

 

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LET’S SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF

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Yesterday I went to Coolidge Corner Theater to see Drop Dead Gorgeous with my friends Ginny and Fiona. I’m glad Ginny found out that the theater was playing it on their throwback/rewind night. I love this freaking movie, it’s hilarious. It’s a mockumentary-style movie about  beauty pageant contestants in a tiny Minnesota town.

Before the show, the theater held a small talent show using members of the audience for prizes. The girl that could bleet like a goat, won. It was awesome! After the show, we had tickets to the after party at a local sushi/hibachi restaurant. They only had a limited amount of free sushi and beer. The beer guys took forever to arrive. When he turned up, I helped myself to some beers before the bartenders had a chance to take it out. Gotta be aggressive!

Anyway, I was feeling all calm and shit about wedding-planning until today. I am starting to get anxiety. We’re about 8 days away now, and I knew the anxiety would surface soon. I’m not really nervous about the wedding itself, or the life-long commitment of marriage. Nah, not really my style to freak out about big things, I like to sweat the small stuff. For example, I’m not a fan of being the center of attention. So the whole “walking down the aisle” moment, along with the first dance, and father/daughter dance are freaking me the fuck out. I dunno why. It’s such a short part of the day, but I like to dwell on it. The day will come and go quickly, so I’m hoping once the moments arrive, I’ll be okay. 

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ENTERING MY LARRY BIRD YEAR

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It’s my birthday, and I’m officially 33. I call it my Larry Bird year, since I’m from Boston and all. It’s also 10 days until my wedding, yikes! I’m trying to stay calm, but that is easier said than done. Today I’m going out to lunch and having a nice steak from Ruth Chris for dinner. I can’t wait, sign me up for ice cream and steak. 

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I forgot to post that my co-workers surprised me last week with a little bridal shower. It was very nice of them! I loved the cake, of course. haha! On Saturday, my family arranged a spa day followed by lunch, since they couldn’t make it to my bachelorette party. It was very kind of them, and I’m grateful! One of my sisters picked up some Star Wars masks and the shirt I’m wearing. I’m going to use the masks for my photo booth at the wedding. I already had some from Amazon, but doesn’t hurt to have more!

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FRIENDS > FAMILY

Ye be warned, this is a wedding-related rant post that I just need to get off my darn chest.

One of my favorite cousins will not be attending my wedding next month. I cannot hide how hurt I am. She is basically like another sister to me growing up. Though, we definitely don’t see each other very often these days. Apparently it’s more important to attend her friends 2nd or 3rd marriage, that she was JUST ASKED to be in a few weeks back. As an aside, I asked people to be in my wedding before I even had a venue picked. Also, I sent my invites out in June, so she definitely knew about my wedding. She  kinda screwed over my Maid of Honor with my Bachelorette plans (which she knew about 4-5 months in advance), by backing out 2 weeks before the party. She never even contacted me after to explain why she couldn’t go. So instead of tossing her check in the trash that she sent as a gift, I’m going to cash it and give the money to my MOH to try to recoup the cost she ate for her not going to the Bachelorette party.

I’m truly very hurt she would choose to only attend her friends umpteenth wedding, instead of going to both. I practically begged her to try to catch the tail end of my wedding, despite the fact it would take her 2 1/2 hours to get to me. I would also like to clarify, I’m not a diva by any means. But it’s a big day for me, and I never imagined she wouldn’t be there for it.

I also get the impression she hasn’t even checked with her friend if it’s okay for her to leave after dinner or something during the reception. I would assume, if she truly wanted to go to my wedding, she would have told her friend that she needed to go to both and plan accordingly. Judging by our conversations, I don’t think she even told her friend the scheduling conflict.

I am just truly hurt by this whole situation. I hope she comes to her senses and figures out a way to catch the back end of my reception. If not, I just don’t think I can speak to her ever again.  I hate that sometimes it takes a wedding to weed out people that clearly mean a lot more to you, than you to do them. It’s a sucky situation, no use in dwelling on it. 

Edited to add, I would 100% understand if the arrangements to be in this friends wedding, had happened months and months ago. I would definitely not be as hurt about it had the timing been much different.  Also, forgot to mention, I was IN her freaking wedding years ago. 

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