Ye be warned, this is a wedding-related rant post that I just need to get off my darn chest.
One of my favorite cousins will not be attending my wedding next month. I cannot hide how hurt I am. She is basically like another sister to me growing up. Though, we definitely don’t see each other very often these days. Apparently it’s more important to attend her friends 2nd or 3rd marriage, that she was JUST ASKED to be in a few weeks back. As an aside, I asked people to be in my wedding before I even had a venue picked. Also, I sent my invites out in June, so she definitely knew about my wedding. She kinda screwed over my Maid of Honor with my Bachelorette plans (which she knew about 4-5 months in advance), by backing out 2 weeks before the party. She never even contacted me after to explain why she couldn’t go. So instead of tossing her check in the trash that she sent as a gift, I’m going to cash it and give the money to my MOH to try to recoup the cost she ate for her not going to the Bachelorette party.
I’m truly very hurt she would choose to only attend her friends umpteenth wedding, instead of going to both. I practically begged her to try to catch the tail end of my wedding, despite the fact it would take her 2 1/2 hours to get to me. I would also like to clarify, I’m not a diva by any means. But it’s a big day for me, and I never imagined she wouldn’t be there for it.
I also get the impression she hasn’t even checked with her friend if it’s okay for her to leave after dinner or something during the reception. I would assume, if she truly wanted to go to my wedding, she would have told her friend that she needed to go to both and plan accordingly. Judging by our conversations, I don’t think she even told her friend the scheduling conflict.
I am just truly hurt by this whole situation. I hope she comes to her senses and figures out a way to catch the back end of my reception. If not, I just don’t think I can speak to her ever again. I hate that sometimes it takes a wedding to weed out people that clearly mean a lot more to you, than you to do them. It’s a sucky situation, no use in dwelling on it.
Edited to add, I would 100% understand if the arrangements to be in this friends wedding, had happened months and months ago. I would definitely not be as hurt about it had the timing been much different. Also, forgot to mention, I was IN her freaking wedding years ago.
Ugh, sorry guys it’s another post about my upcoming wedding. I know, SO ANNOYING! I purposely have not been keeping track of how many days away the wedding is. But we’ve passed the two month mark. That’s even scarier than finding out Lena Dunham is going to be on season 7 of AHS! Anyway, I managed to lock down a photographer. So the photographer crisis for 2017 is over. I even negotiated a sweet deal! I went with the photographer that is a preferred vendor for our venue. It turns out they’ve also done 2 of my friends weddings. So I already know they are good. Bonus, they have a pretty quick turn-around after the wedding.
But the downside is we got the quote back for my wedding ring, and it’s definitely more than we were anticipating. We don’t have much choice though, so you win some and you lose some. I also had my second dress fitting this weekend and it went well. She just has to do the bustle part, then I think we’re about done (I HOPE).
Much to my relief, it looks like we won’t be over the capacity of the ballroom we booked, even if the remaining people all say “yes” (which I hope they don’t). I already know most of my relatives in Europe won’t make it, but I still need a firm answer. We’re missing slightly less than 50% response cards right now, and we’re about 3 weeks out until we need the final count. So people still have time reply. According the bride group I’m in, people not responding at all is pretty common and also RUDE. So as kind reminder, be sure to always send your RSVP cards back for weddings or parties. Don’t be a jerk!
My friend helped me put my wedding stickers onto the light saber favors I got for the wedding. They have six different light modes to choose. So guests can be “dark side” or “light side”. I will be picking the rainbow mode, not sure what side that is? I just hope I don’t need to buy extra, but that all depends on the final count. Ok, that is enough wedding talk for now. My eye is starting to twitch. I don’t know why people enjoy wedding planning, it’s about as fun as slamming your face into a wall of nails. I’ll be sure to post my weekend recap soon, I did do some non-wedding stuff I swear!
…stressing. So I have to find a new wedding photographer. Initially we were going to use Andy’s former co-worker. He said he would give us a “deal.” I didn’t know what said “deal” would be, or what it would include. But since the upcoming nuptials are a tad over two months away, I had Andy get some more details from his friend. Without going into specifics, the “deal” is more expensive than any other photographer I’ve been forced to reach out to. So needless to say, we don’t have that kind of budget. Thankfully Andy already spoke with him, and they are fine with us using a different photographer. Thank Goodness, I don’t want to create any awkwardness.
I’ve been scrambling the last 5 days to find a new photographer. I managed to find some that are available that day. But I would prefer to use the photographer my friend had for her wedding. Thus far, she has the most reasonable prices for what we’re looking for. I am waiting to get more package option info back, after talking with her. I won’t be able to relax until we have a contract signed with a photographer. I am on pins and needles waiting to hear back, but I don’t want to be a stalker. hahaha! I also don’t want to harass people either. So until then, I’m trying to play it cool. Which is impossible for the anxious mind. Also, I’m not cool. So trying to act cool is rather comical. So if you need me, I’ll be hyperventilating in a corner somewhere.
My face when someone asks about wedding plans
Ugh, I was doing SO GOOD at blogging a few times a week. Then I got all stressed out about moving and neglected my blog. But I moved back in April, and haven’t gotten back on the blogging horse. Sorry Bloggy Horse! The new apartment is coming along. We have some furniture arriving soon, which reminds me that I have to call and ask when it’s arriving.
I always have a bewildered look on my face when I get asked how wedding planning is going. Not that I’m necessarily behind on anything, I just don’t really know what I’m doing. So I’m just stumbling along like everyone else who has never planned a wedding before. The invites went out last week. So far, only a few people on Andy’s side have responded. Good thing we don’t have a bet going on who gets the most RVSP’s, as I don’t have one single card back from anyone I invited. I guess my friends and families aren’t as eager as Andy’s side?
Anyway, last weekend we met with the event coordinator at our wedding venue. We ran through a bunch of items for the wedding. At the end, she said she wished she had more brides as organized as myself. I consider this a huge compliment, since I have no clue what I am doing! All I did was download a checklist by month of what I’m supposed to be doing (according to one of those wedding websites). It’s actually quite handy.
I moved the checklist to my own Google Keep file. I wanted the option to customize the list. I should have kept my master list intact, so I could share it with other brides who don’t know what they are doing either and are just stumbling through the wedding planning process. I also had my dress fitting this month. The top of my dress has to be taken in quite a bit, I bought a sample off the rack. It needs to be shortened so my crazy heels can peep through a little. We did our cake tasting as well. I still dream about the chocolate cake, I’m sure I’ll be sick of it when I have to take home leftovers. Worry about that later, I suppose.
So apparently I never gave Good Charlotte enough credit back in the day. I never really listened to much of their songs. But I rediscovered “Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous” song a few weeks back, and I can’t stop listening to it. Now I feel bad for thinking they were just another lame pop/punk band from the early 2000’s. Touché, Good Charlotte.
The Superbowl (Super Bowl?) is this weekend. I’ve been calling it the Superb Owl, just to be a smart ass. I’m super nervous about it and I’m not even playing. When the Patriots won in Superbowl 49, I was an anxious mess in my living room. I was jumping around like a mad woman. I was so happy the Patriots pulled off the win. I have no idea if they will win this time around. I mean, I hope they do! I just don’t trust my instincts anymore, especially after the election results. So I’m making no assumptions or predictions at this time. We’re venturing out to watch it. I personally don’t think it’s a good idea, but I’ll play along.
Busy weekend ahead though. Andy and I doing our food tasting for the wedding, so we can lock down the menu. I also have my friends birthday party. This year, I will not try to be “healthy” and get the seaweed salad. I happened to get sick from it TWICE. I will be sure to order the most unhealthy items on the menu, and hope I won’t get sick. That is how it works, right?! On Sunday we’re going to watch the game at a pub, and I plan on using my Patriots nail wraps. I took Monday off, so I can partake in the iHop all you can eat pancakes deal. I just don’t know if I’ll be eating pancakes, or using them as a pillow to cry in. TBD on that.
I had a goal in mind for the weekend, it was to lock down a wedding dress. Not that I had been to a ton of bridal shops trying things on, but I had been deliberating options, and pinning dresses for months. So when I went to my second bridal appointment, I was hoping it would be one of the last appointments. As fun as dress shopping is, it can get stressful. Only because it’s a lot of pressure to find the right gown. The trouble is, I like a lot of dresses. So it was hard for me to say what I did/didn’t like about some of dresses over others. This made it a tad difficult to zero in what exactly I was looking for.
I had basic parameters. I liked a-line or ball gown, sparkle, and tulle. That lead to so many options! I was also trying to find something different, yet traditional at the same time. So I was scratching my head as to how I would be able to find anything like that?! I also made the mistake of going to look at dresses that were out of budget. I went to a trunk show for a designer I liked. They didn’t list prices on the gowns, so I guess I didn’t think about it too much.
I honestly was just going so I could poke around and see if they had this specific dress I was trying to track down from Fall 2012. Which they didn’t. Instead I tried on some dresses that were the overall silhouette I liked. I fell in love with this amazing glittery dress, and the finding out the price was like getting shot in the face. ROOKIE MOVE. How many times have I watched wedding dress reality shows?! It’s like the cardinal rule of dress shopping, don’t bother with things out of budget. But I did. So I was feeling discouraged with trying other places, because I wasn’t sure I’d find something I liked as much as the expensive glittery one.
I ended up at Vows over the weekend. It’s outlet bridal shop, that was on the defunct TLC show “I Found the Gown.” My consultant was great! She asked me what I did/didn’t like about certain gowns. Which was tricky, because I felt like I liked a lot of the dresses I tried, and it was difficult to pin point what exactly I didn’t like about them. But she did a great job, and pulled a dress none of us saw.
We missed it because we focused on looking at full skirt styles, prior to my appointment. So we forgot to check out the a-line section. Once I put it on, I knew it was dress for me. We all agreed, including my mom. My mom and I have drastically different tastes. The best part? It was very much under budget. I named my dress Hyperspace, as the design on it, reminds me of when a ship goes into hyperspace in Star Wars. So I thought that was appropriate. Now the title of this post, makes sense, huh?
So I spontaneously made a wedding dress appointment prior to my other appointment. It all started the other day when my friend Erin found this really awesome tinted dress on Google images. After some searching around, we found out the designer and model of the dress. It turns out, it’s an oldie from Fall 2012, so good luck trying to find it. I called a few local bridal shops, and one said they might be able to order it, since it’s still on the designers website. This is good news! So they reached out to the company, and are going to let me know.
In the meantime, I called Nordstrom (they carry that designer as well) and they told me they are having a Lazaro trunk show. They didn’t have the dress I want on hand anymore, but they said it’s possible it could turn up during the trunk show, but not extremely likely. No matter, I decided to take their very last open appointment during the trunk show, just to sniff it out. I think this appointment will be like the montage scene in The Sweetest Thing, not taking it terribly seriously (sorry Nordstrom employees!), but to scope out options. I’ve already printed out some Lazaro and Hayley Paige dresses I want to try.
Their dresses are over my budget, but it doesn’t hurt to check them out anyway. Who knows, maybe they will have a sale, or I can snag a sample size at a discount or something. Either way, I’m not putting pressure on the appointment. It’s my first one after all, and I’m quite indecisive. So I’ll end up checking out at least a few shops before settling on something. Also, I still have lots of time to get a dress, I didn’t want to rush and panic-buy a dress.